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More and more effeminate men and no less masculine women appear in modern society. Thus, the biological boundaries between women and men are gradually blurred. Let's take a look at why these changes occur, and how they affect reproductive function women. Marian Saltzman wrote in her book that testosterone is not the exclusive prerogative of men and masculine athletes.
But what do we know about testosterone? That this hormone was isolated relatively late - in 1935. That this is the basic biological foundation of reproductive behavior. That the amount of testosterone, and hence the ability to produce sperm during sex, increases in those men who want to become fathers. That it also makes men more attractive to mosquitoes. And that testosterone levels in men drop in response to the sound of a baby crying or when a man soothes his child.
We now know that testosterone rules the lives of many women, as well as men. Hormonal disorders, as a result of which a beard or mustache begins to grow in women, are very common - almost 7% of the fairer sex suffer from them. Such women produce twice as much testosterone as others. Moreover, scientists are increasingly seeing a link between a woman's testosterone levels and her behavior. For example, according to a study conducted at the University of Auckland, women who are prone to dominant behavior simply high level testosterone in the blood, and as a result, they have more sons than daughters.
Valerie Grant, a University of Auckland researcher, suggests that high testosterone levels somehow make the egg more receptive to being fertilized by a sperm cell containing a Y chromosome rather than an X chromosome. Instead of the old belief that the sex of an unborn child depends on the father, Grant argues that, based on the characteristics of a woman’s character, it can be said whether she will have a boy or a girl. This theory is supported to some extent by the work of John Manning at the University of Liverpool, UK. In 2002, scientists from this university reported that more sons than daughters are born to those men and women whose ring finger is longer than the index finger. How is the gender of the unborn child related to the length of the fingers? Manning claims that a long ring finger indicates high levels of testosterone in the uterus.
Further evidence that women may play a more important role in determining the sex of an unborn child than previously thought comes from recent studies in Europe and the United States. These studies have shown that single mothers are more likely to have daughters than sons. The reasons for this phenomenon are still unknown, although some believe that women who live alone are more likely to make love on the day of ovulation, and this has been shown to increase the likelihood of having a girl.
What about sperm competition? Of course, this is the most obvious and elementary form of male rivalry - the race to the top. The problem is that modern research reveals a very different picture. It turns out that instead of passively waiting for the conqueror, the egg is also actively involved in this rivalry. Research has found millions of inconspicuous folds in the walls of a woman's vagina that make this competition easier. The sperm of several partners can be stored in the uterus for up to seven days before racing to the egg. Even with this testosterone-fueled clot of male aggression, the claim that men are more genetically programmed to compete is called into question. For example, evolutionary psychologists today argue that anorexia nervosa may be a distorted form of female competition for male attention.
On the street very often today you can see young man in tight pants, pink clothes, with long hair, with all sorts of rhinestones and hearts, a chain around the neck, a bracelet on the wrist, etc. Sometimes it's not always possible to determine whether it's a guy or a girl... Even more often you can see girls in jeans, trousers, chewing gum, laughing loudly, using foul language...
In this article, we will try to express the point of view of Sharia regarding such self-expression - when men acquire feminine qualities, and women acquire masculine qualities.
Imam al-Bukhari and others cite a hadeeth from Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him), which says:
At-Tabarani narrates the following hadeeth: “Once a woman passed by the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) throwing a bow around her neck, and the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “The Almighty has cursed women who resemble men and men who resemble women.” In a hadith narrated by Imam al-Bukhari, it is said: "The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) cursed effeminate men and masculine women."
Imams Abu Dawud al-Nasai, ibn Maja and al-Hakim in their collections give the following hadith: "The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) cursed the man who wears a woman's dress and the woman who wears a man's dress." The hadith narrated by Imam Ahmad says: “The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) cursed effeminate men who resemble women and masculine women who resemble men and that woman who recovered on her journey alone without a mahram (without a close relative, marriage with whom she is forbidden )". Another hadith cited by Imam at-Tabari says: “Four categories of people will be cursed (devoid of the mercy of the Almighty) and the angels will say “amin” (O Allah, curse him!) Both in this world and in the next: a man whom The Almighty made a man, and he became like a woman; a woman whom the Almighty made a woman, and she became like a man; the one who deceives the blind and the one who does not marry, having a passion for women, and the Almighty did not make anyone like that except Yahya, the son of Zakariya (alayhima-s-salaam).
Imam Abu Dawood narrates: “Once upon a time, an effeminate man was brought to the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), whose hands and feet were painted with henna. The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) asked: “What is it for?”, the Companions replied: “By this he tries to become like women” and the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) ordered him to be sent away from Medina.
A reliable hadith says: “Three will not enter Paradise: the one who tormented his parents (didn’t treat them well), the pimp (didn’t get jealous of his wife, i.e. didn’t pay attention to the fact that she was alone with strangers) and masculine women", in another version of this hadith it is said: "Three will never enter Paradise: a pimp, masculine women and constantly drinking alcohol", then the companions exclaimed: "O Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), as for the one who constantly drinks alcohol, we know, but who is a pander? The Prophet (PBUH) replied: “This is the one who does not pay attention to those who enter his house (that is, does not show any jealousy when an outsider comes to his wife in his absence), then the companions said: “ And who are these masculine women? ”, The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) replied:“ These are those who are likened to men.
Assimilation of one sex to another is considered a grave sin, and in favor of this there are many reliable hadiths cited above, and it is also said about the threat of punishment for such an act. In general, Muslim theologians are divided on this: some believe that this is clearly haram (forbidden), this opinion is shared by Imam al-Nawawi, others that this is an undesirable action (makrooh), this opinion is shared by Imam ar-Rafi. However, Ibn Hajar preferred the former. From the hadith about a man who painted his hands and feet with henna in order to become like women, and whom the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered to be sent away from Medina, one can understand that it is haraam (forbidden) for a man to paint his hands and feet.
Also, the husband is obliged to forbid his wife everything that can give her a resemblance to men, for example, walk with a man's gait, wear men's clothing and so on. so that the curse of the Almighty does not touch her, and he, too, since the husband is also responsible for the deeds of his wife. If the husband agrees with such behavior of his wife, then he will be affected by the same thing as her, that is, the curse of Allah. For the Quran says:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ ن َارًا (سورة التحريم آية 6)
“O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from the fire of hell!”, that is, teaching them, educating them, commanding them to obey the Almighty and forbidding disobedience to Him.
Also in the hadith of the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) it is said: "Each of you is a shepherd and each is responsible for his flock."
كلكم راع وكلكم مسئول عن رعيته (جامع الأحاديث 15753)
A man in his family is a shepherd and he will be required for all family members on the Day of Judgment. One of the hadiths says: "Truly, the death of men lies in their submission to their wives."
ان هلاك الرجال طاعتهم لنسائهم
On this occasion, Hasan al-Basri said: “I swear by Allah, in our time a man will not indulge (obey) his wife in everything that she desires, except that Allah will throw him into the fire of hell.”
Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: “The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) cursed men who resemble women and women who resemble men.”
The meaning of the word "cursed" means that the Almighty will deprive them of His mercy, because in these actions lies an attempt to change the creation of the Almighty. The curse applies only to the one who consciously tries and tries to become like women in soft, gentle speech, gait, swaying slightly, etc. As for the fact that a man by nature, his physiology has a soft, gentle voice or a gait similar to a woman's and he is not able to do anything about it, even after persistent attempts, then there is nothing forbidden in this, not to mention the deprivation of mercy. Allah.
Al-Hafiz ibn Hajar in the book "Fathul-Bari" quotes the scholar at-Tabari. The point is that men are forbidden to imitate women is not only in the likening of clothes and jewelry, but also in speech (soft, gentle) and gait. As for clothing, it varies depending on the tradition of each city. Sometimes it happens that women's clothing is no different from men's, but women are distinguished by a hijab (a scarf, etc.) and a more thorough covering of the body. As for the ban on the convergence of speech and gait, this applies only to the one who does it on purpose. If a person has similar qualities (speech and gait) in his physiology, he is commanded to be zealous in leaving such behavior, and also gradually get used to it (that is, leaving such a behavior). If he does not zealous in leaving such actions and continues to behave like the opposite sex, then this is already reprehensible, especially if he does it with desire.
Wisdom is in the curse of the one who is likened to the opposite kind in that he changes what the Wise of the wise did, i.e. Allah. This is also indicated by the words "those who change the creation of the Almighty", which are given in a hadith that curses women who grow their hair with strangers.
Ibn Abbas reported the following hadith: “The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) cursed effeminate men and masculine women,” he further said: “Drive them out of your homes!”. An effeminate man here means one who deliberately speaks and moves softly, gently, like a woman (Irshad al-Sari).
Imam Abu Dawud reports the following: “Once Aisha (the wife of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) was told: “What do you think about the one who wears slippers (meaning men's)? Aisha replied: “The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) cursed masculine women.” A masculine woman means a woman who resembles men in certain actions and qualities. Ibn Abi Jamra said that the word "resembling" means that in everything, but still, despite his opinion, due to numerous other arguments, it is understood that the goal of the word "resembling" is similarity in the form of clothing, some qualities and movements , but not in good deeds, that is, in performing good deeds, women are allowed to imitate men. Also, the curse (when it is mentioned in the hadiths) is one of the signs of a serious sin.
The actions due to which a woman is cursed are the display of jewelry, gold, pearls from under the hijab.
The article was prepared based on the materials of the following books: "al-Kabair", "az-Zawajir" and "Mukhtasar al-Bukhari"
On the street very often today you can see a young man in tight pants, pink clothes, with long hair, with all sorts of rhinestones and hearts, a chain around his neck, a bracelet on his wrist, etc. Sometimes it's not always possible to determine whether it's a guy or a girl... Even more often you can see girls in jeans, trousers, chewing gum, laughing loudly, using foul language...
According to a study by psychologists from New York University and Princeton University, published in the journal Psychological Science, most women prefer men with a feminine oval face and dark skin, writes The Daily Mail.
Men with effeminate faces are more likely to be successful with ladies - they are considered more attractive than men with a pronounced "masculine" appearance. Men also like women with a typical feminine oval face, plump lips and wide eyes.
Such conclusions were drawn as a result of a survey of two groups of men and women who were asked to rate the attractiveness of several of the thousands of faces generated by a computer program.
Singer Steven Tyler, soccer player David Beckham, actors Leonardo DiCaprio and Jude Law are cited as examples of men with effeminate faces.
As history testifies, feminine men or male feminization always arise only as a response to female emancipation ... a consequence, so to speak, of strengthening the masculinity of women. The dynamics of the social images of a man and a woman takes place according to the type of communicating vessels, in compliance with a peculiar law of maintaining influence in society.
The more women are emancipated, the less masculine men become, and vice versa. And the modern growth of femininity in men is by no means a new phenomenon and not a discovery of the 20th century, but a natural cyclical process that has apparently existed at all times.
The change in the character and status of women in the 20th century had a serious impact on the principles of raising children: girls from an early age were taught to be strong and decisive so that in the future they could perform complex male work. Boys were protected and cherished, because the country needed new generations of healthy men.
The career boom among women in the last two decades of the 20th century also contributed to the continuation of emancipation. A woman has become completely independent, able to provide for herself independently and does not recognize the power of a man over herself.
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Each next generation of men became more and more dependent on the care of their mothers, grandmothers, wives.
Thus, by the beginning of the 21st century, the psychological portraits of a man and a woman acquired new features, changing their attitude towards each other and towards the creation of a future family. Women are self-confident and ready for a full-fledged relationship, they just represent these relationships from the side of their masculine qualities, they see them with a "male eye". Plan, achieve, change and hunt. Men in these relationships, of course, do not have enough space.
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Femininity modern girl hidden behind outer shells, which she successfully uses to protect herself from the problems and pressures of the outside world. To awaken the feminine, you need to look deep inside yourself. There, where the same romantic nature is hiding, which had to give way to a principled and strong woman.
When a man feels next to him the presence of a meek and modest, affectionate, gentle creature, he changes, awakening in himself masculinity and the desire to be the main one. A man opens up, seeks to protect femininity, he is ready to take responsibility for two. He grows, overestimating his own importance in relation to the real woman next to him.
But what does " real woman"? Culture replaces this vanishing integrity with the image of a strong, courageous girl who can easily achieve her goals. Of course, such a woman, if desired, can achieve well-being in her personal life as quickly as in her career, but such happiness will not last long.
A real woman is softness, tenderness, affection, kindness. This is a loving wife and caring mother, vulnerable and in need of protection from her man. Able to ask, yearn, wait, forgive a loved one.
Women no longer want manly men! What is the reason?
Birth control pillsA study conducted at the British Sheffield University showed that over the past 40 years, women have increasingly ceased to like pronounced masculine men due to the use of birth control pills.
Scientists have proven that oral contraceptive hormones suppress women's interest in masculine men, so they begin to like younger, somewhere effeminate men.
If this theory is confirmed by other scientists around the world, then it will definitely become clear why tastes have changed from the stars of the 50s and 60s, real machos, such as Sean Connery and Kirk Douglas, to the weaker, female-like, modern celebrities. Johnny Depp and Orlando Bloom.
Dr. Alexandra Elverny, who conducted the study, says that birth control pills also influence how women began to choose their men as partners, thus, because of the pills, the whole society is changing.
Pi this doctor emphasizes that oral contraceptives have a lot of obvious advantages, but do not forget that they are possible side effects in psychological terms.
The relationship between birth control pills and sexual preference was published in the scientific journal Trends in the section Ecology and Evolution.
Scientists have long identified changes in women's preferences for men depending on the menstrual cycle.
In the first days of each month, when a woman is most fertile, that is, on the days of ovulation, women pay more attention to more self-confident, assertive men with pronounced masculine and even rude facial features. In addition, during ovulation days, women are interested in men who are genetically different from them, according to Dr. Elverne, that is, women instinctively choose a partner to ensure the conception of the most healthy child.
On other days, women are more likely to prefer a softer, even effeminate man, at these moments they are interested in men as a person, and not a set of genes.
Thus, if women take birth control pills, then they no longer have ovulation days, that is, there are no hormonal changes, and they begin to be attracted only to softer, younger and more effeminate men.
In this direction, Dr. Elverny conducted seven studies and is not going to stop to finally be convinced of her assumptions.
19 main differences between women and men, and vice versa
Expressions. The words that come out of the mouth of a woman who hit her fingers with a hammer, not on a nail, can be safely aired. What breaks out in such cases from men is not subject to translation.
Movement. Swinging to throw something, the woman takes her hand not to the side, but back. A woman does not bite a cigarette with her teeth, does not leave it in her mouth, but always keeps it in her hand. On hot pebbles, a woman walks on tiptoe, a man walks on his heels. Women plug their ears with their fingers, men cover them with their palms. When you ask a woman to pass you a lighter, she passes it to you, and does not throw it away, testing your reaction. Women never scratch their heads - it spoils their hair.
Mirrors. Men only look in the mirror to appreciate their appearance. Women evaluate their appearance by looking into any reflective object, whether it is a mirror itself, a shop window, or even a polished car hood.
Telephone. Men consider the telephone a means of communication and use it as a transmitter of information. A woman can stay with a friend for several days, but when she returns home, immediately call her and chat for another good hour.
Purchases. When a woman goes to the store, she makes a preliminary list of what is needed, buys everything that is planned, and returns home. A man is going to the store only when only a shriveled lemon and half a can of beer remain from the products in the refrigerator.
Shoes. Arriving at work, a woman changes comfortable street shoes for more elegant shoes. Sitting at the table, she discreetly takes off her shoes: who is able to torment their feet all day long? A man usually does not change his shoes throughout the day.
Exit from home. When a man says that he is ready to go, it means that only a visit to the toilet separates him from the exit. The same phrase in the mouth of a woman means that before leaving, she needs to have time to wash her hair, iron her outfit and, of course, do makeup.
The end of a love story. Women tend to cry and share their anguish with their girlfriends. After that, having written a poem on the theme "All men are pigs", the woman quite confidently meets tomorrow. For men, the period of the novel is "the time when we communicated with:". Six months after the breakup, a man can call his ex-girlfriend for an hour at 3 a.m. after a fair amount of "breastfeeding" to inform her that although the hatred has not yet subsided in his heart, he is ready to forgive the one who "she is to blame for everything ". If she agrees to wash the dishes he has accumulated for six months.
Print and body. On the pages of publications for men, there are many photographs of naked women. On the pages of women's magazines, such photos are also no exception. The reason is that the female body is a beautiful creation of nature and it is not a sin to show it naked. The male body is covered with hair, clumsy, it should not be shown in daylight. Most men at the sight of the naked female body show keen interest in it. For women, a picture of a naked male usually causes a surge of fun.
Sex. Women want 30-40 minutes of love games, anticipating the actual hug. Men on " preliminary training"They allot 30-40 seconds, and they also count the journey from the restaurant to the apartment during this period. Having sex, a woman thinks about whether she looks beautiful. After that, she does not want to sleep, but wants to talk and kiss.
Bathroom and related rituals. There are usually six items in a man's bathroom: Toothbrush, toothpaste, shaving foam, a razor, a piece of soap, and more often a remnant of soap, and a towel grabbed from some motel. In the bathroom of the average woman, you will find 437 items, most of which the average man is unlikely to be able to identify. After taking a bath, a woman (whether long-haired, shorn or ill with typhus) winds a turban from a towel around her head, at least for a minute. The reasons for the emergence of this oriental ritual are unknown.
Offspring. Women know everything about their own children: the date of the next visit to the dental office, the day of an important sporting event for the offspring, the story of his last love, the best friends of their children, their favorite dishes, secret fears and dreams. Men's ideas about small creatures living in their apartment are very vague.
Flora and fauna. Women are afraid of spiders, worms and mice. They don't like caterpillars, even the most beautiful ones. Women love cats. Men claim that they also love cats, but when a woman is not at home, they strive to send this animal to hell. The man does not understand why his girlfriend likes these tattered brooms, which for some reason she calls "dry flower arrangements." The woman leaves for a week and asks the man to water the flowers in her absence. A man, of course, undertakes to do this. The woman returns to find that all the flowers have died. Nobody knows why this happened.
Clothes and accessories. A woman dresses differently for shopping, walking the dog, answering the phone, taking out the trash, reading a book, cooking. Men change their usual attire only in case of a wedding or funeral.
Behind the wheel. If a woman, driving a car, realizes that she is lost, she stops at the nearest gas station and asks for advice. Men consider such behavior to be a purely feminine weakness and roll around unfamiliar terrain for hours, cheering themselves up with phrases like: "How interesting it is to find new way to the house!" or "Yeah, that's the department store - now very close."
Hits below the belt. Watching a boxing match and seeing a blow below the belt, a man can howl and bend over three deaths, since only he knows the severity of the pain experienced by the athlete. A woman will never truly understand why the players, lining up in the wall, make a funny "slide" with their palms. So she doesn't even flinch when a movie character gets kicked in the crotch with a boot.
Toys. Little girls love to play with toys. TO adolescence their interest in it begins to fade. Men never lose interest in toys. The older they get, the more expensive and impractical their toys become. Typical male toys: cars, mini TVs, Cell phones, graphical calculators, small robots offering various drinks on command, video and computer games, any other squeaking and flashing objects.
In the locker room. Men talk in the locker room about money, hockey and women. They inflate their income, they know little about hockey, and their stories about women are usually made up. Women talk in the locker room only about sex. They speak directly, without hiding, their descriptions are very detailed and picturesque. They never lie.
Tastes. Men like women. Women only like simple things, like men.
