Interview with American preacher Mark Gungor. The best video about family relationships from Mark Gangora Mark Gangora who
Men are not women, the preacher assures.
Yes Yes. He preaches from the stage such important and seemingly obvious things as the difference between men and women.
And very cheerfully, with great humor and kindness explains what exactly it is.
Here are a few phrases from the beginning of his speech:
- I asked many women to describe their ideal man, and they described the ideal woman!
- Men are very simple. S-E-K-S - everything is simple.
- About men and women, you need to understand one general pattern: when problems arise, you should not delve into the other person.
I have a passage from the Bible that I would like to show you.
If you follow his advice, your marriage will never, ever have any problems. The Bible says, "It is better for a man not to marry at all." And the Bible continues the thought: “However, even if you marry, such will have sorrows ...”
People often come up to me and say: “I have problems in my marriage!” I answer: "No, you are fine." These passages are not often heard at weddings. Would ruin the mood, right? You won't find these words on greeting cards. They are not written on beautifully decorated cakes.
Is that a good enough reason not to get married? After all, marriage is a miracle. Great, incredible miracle. But he is not without problems.
I want to show another quote from the Bible: "Where there are no oxen, there is a manger clean." Let me explain these words to you. They mean that if you get an ox, then you will get ox poop. If you don't like poop, and most of us really don't, then it's tempting to get rid of the ox. I don't want you to get rid of your ox. Why do you need this ox? Here is what is written in the continuation of the quote: "And much profit from the strength of the oxen." Here's a snag for you.
On the one hand, we all like the benefits of an ox, but no one likes poop. The meaning of the quote is that one is inseparable from the other. There is no such thing as a no-frills marriage. We will not talk about how to achieve perfection in life, but about how to make sure that you are not filled with poop. If all you have is stool, then your ox is sick.
But there are no wasteless marriages. For those who do not understand, I will give a mathematical formula: an ox equals poop, divided by a positive. Some are closer to “positive divided by bowel movements”. In any case, we are talking about the ratio and its result.
Marriage is a wonderful institution. Statistics show that married people are healthier than unmarried people, happier, earn more money, have a better sex life than unmarried people. In our culture, this is invisible. Judging by all the films and shows, it is the unmarried people who are satisfied with sex, but the married people ...
If someone asks how you are with sex, then the answer is: “Are you laughing? I’m married…” Not true. It's just some nonsense. Married people are more satisfied with their sex life, loners simply don’t understand anything about it, they just scream a lot. Statistics show that married people live longer.
Marriage is great. The problem is that many people do everything wrong. We live in a culture that knows nothing about human relationships. We really don't know what to do. I want to teach you how to recharge and change your marriage.
If you are driving at 80 miles per hour on a stretch of road where the speed limit is only 40 miles per hour and you don't slow down, you are likely to have an accident, even if you are listening to the Christian wave, even if you have an icon. Christ in the Machine... You may not like it, but the laws of physics still apply to you, whether you believe in them or not. The same is true with the physics of relationships.
If you behave in a certain way, then most likely your wife will behave in a completely different way.
Here's a typical stereotype for you: "Men are more interested in sex than their wives." Why is it so? Because in a general sense it is true. But not always. In many families, the wife is more interested in sex than her husband. And if your wife is more interested in sex than you, then perhaps I will not be mistaken in saying on behalf of all men: “We hate you!” But do not betray yourself to us, otherwise we will inadvertently beat you.
The culture we live in says that marriage is an institution that sucks the life out of you. That's why we say: "First you need to grow up, first you need to earn money, first you need to get an education, first you need to study a person on dates for 37 years." First, first, first ... But it's not like that. Marriage will give you life if you do it right. And if you make a mistake, you start filling out forms.
The brain of a man. He is unique. The brain of a man is made of small boxes. We have a box for everything. There is a car box. There is a box for money, for work, for you, for children, for your mother, somewhere in the basement. We have boxes everywhere. And there is a rule - the boxes should not touch each other! When a man discusses a particular issue, he finds that particular box, takes it out, opens it and only discusses what is in that box! And then he closes the box and puts it back, but be very careful not to let it hit the other boxes!
The brain of a woman is different from the brain of a man. A woman's brain is a big bundle of wires. Everything is connected to everything there: money is connected to the car, the car is connected to your work, children are connected to your mother, everything is connected to everything. Much like high speed internet. And all this is controlled by an energy called "emotions". This is one of the reasons why women tend to remember everything. Because any event associated with emotions is recorded in your memory, and you remember it all your life. The same thing happens to men, but not often, because, frankly, we don't care.
There is a box in a man's brain that most women don't know exists. There is nothing in this particular box. Is it true. Actually, it's called "The Box of Nothing". Of all the boxes in a man's brain, the Box of Nothing is his favorite. If he could, he would sit in that box all day. That is why we do what we are branded for. For example, we go fishing… we sit in front of the TV… Women can’t do that. And they don't understand the Box of Nothing. So they go crazy. Nothing irritates a woman more than the sight of a man doing nothing!
All guys feel some sort of obligation to fix a woman when she's stressed. This is because it is natural for men. A man will tell another man about his problems only if in return he helps him solve them. But she's not a man. And if you try to fix it, it will kill you. She doesn't need your advice, she doesn't need your help. She just needs you to shut up and listen to her!
If a man tells you he's stressed out, let him lock himself in the Box of Nothing! And don't go near him! And it's hard for you to understand because we think differently.
Men speak fewer words than women. This is because a woman has to connect many wires in her brain and explain all the connections.
The same words can have different meanings for men and women. For example, for most men, "5 minutes" means 5 minutes. For many women, these words can mean an indefinite period of time ... Men understand Nothing. Women do not understand the meaning of Nothing. If a woman said "nothing", then beware! When a man sighs, it means that everything is fine in his life. When a woman sighs, it means you are an idiot. When a man says "go on," it means he's being polite. When a woman says "go on," it means that she gives you the opportunity to talk about your next stupid act. But you have to be careful in your explanation, as it will most likely be followed by her sigh and followed by "nothing". And you will be deprived of sex for at least 5 minutes.
A woman's brain has an additional storage device so that she can remember everything in detail. The brain of a man responds to minimal system requirements so he can breathe and eat. Therefore, many men are not friendly with details, we simply do not need them.
When an event occurs, a man assigns the category “event” to it. While it's not just an event for a woman, it's all the details associated with the event.
A woman approaches a man and asks, “How was your day?” The man turns to his storage device and says, "Well, day as day." And he adds: "A normal day." And she goes on: “Did something happen?” It accesses the storage device again, and there is nothing there! He panics and replies, "Nothing." And the woman is all seething ...
When women talk about what happened to them, they literally relive it in excruciatingly painful detail. I mean, she's really there again, and it's on fire.
Not all people are the same. But basically all men are single-taskers. We do one thing and we do it very well. Women are able to do many things at the same time. Guys can't do that. Therefore, you should not ask a man to answer for more than one child at a time. But with one child, we can handle it.
If a man does anything, he practically hears nothing. Women can do a lot and have three different conversations.
If a man is busy with something (except when he is arranged differently), do not give him vital information! Because it won't register in his brain. You know what you said to him, but only the information remained in his brain that you didn’t tell him a damn thing.
Women are so multitasking that they are able to do their business even "out of network coverage." It would be great if your husband was in range of the network. One man came up to me and said: “You know, I'm standing in the toilet. The door is closed. The air conditioner is working. There are tiles everywhere, so the sound just bounces off the walls. And I'm standing there. All I can hear is the sound of running water. And she's still talking to me!"
You can tell if you're married to a multi-tasking woman or not: if in a moment of intimate passion she suddenly tells you that, by the way, the plumber said that our toilet was broken ... God, she can make love to you and plan dinners for the next week and think about toilets. And all at the same time...
Girls, if your husbands needed companionship, support and conversations, they would get a dog.
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The first key to incredible sex is exclusivity. One man focused on one woman
So, The #1 key to incredible sex is exclusivity! When one man loves only one woman.
Let us turn to the song of Solomon. Now she says, "My beloved is mine, and I am his."
Something incredible happens when a man loves only one woman. This sounds radical, because in our culture, lust is considered the key to incredible sex: the more you fantasize, the more you date whores, the more you watch porn sites, the more awesome your sex life will be. But they lie to you. Our culture has completely lost its head. And all experts say: "Yes, the key to incredible sex lies in fantasies and masturbation." God, I can't even imagine this woman's sex life!
Hollywood, where people are not married for more than three months, showed us the perfect scenario for sex. Lust, fantasies... But it's all a big brazen vile lie. Everything in life is wrong! You say that I oppose this because I am a priest. No no! I am against lust not for moral reasons. If you want, I will fight lust even in hell, but this is not necessary. Lust just doesn't help! If she helped, then at least it would have a little bit of meaning. But no. And today no one resists her. Read the story of the naked king. Everyone around him was saying how beautiful his robes are, and suddenly one child declares: “Yes, he is naked.” I feel like this child. All modern specialists repeat the same lie over and over again. And everyone agrees with them: “Oh yes, the robes of the king are beautiful. Oh yeah. Lust, pornography, masturbation - all this is the essence of fantastic sex. But it's not. There is only one proof: if you don't try, you won't know. Someone will say that this is not proof. But the proof is that you guys are doing it. I'll ask you a question, you who sit in the dark and look at whores on the Internet, sit and cum right in your underpants ... Okay, you masturbators, you know what I mean. I will ask you a question: “Well, how do you like it? Are you having good sex? You yourself know that it is not. In fact, the more you do it, the more you indulge in lust, the worse your sex life gets. Lust doesn't help. She only makes things worse. It destroys people's lives. In Hollywood, all these experts are ignoramuses.
I watched one show ... "Family Feud" - such a bunch of beautiful dressed-up puppets. I watch these people. They look very good, but are stupid, like felt boots. He asked the question: "What would you do to improve your personal life?" and went to the first table, the first person: "So, I'm waiting for your answer." And he replies: "I'll get a mistress." And the rest of the boots shouted: “Good answer, good answer!” Have a mistress... How can you be so dumb and still alive? The way to improve your personal life is to have a mistress?! But they live in such a culture. The more lust and all these improvements... But there is no improvement. Everything just collapses. I know psychiatrists who have advised married couples to have an affair in order to improve their sex life. They never noticed the naked king. Then the host goes to another guy and asks him, he looks at him like a psycho and replies: "I'll get a mistress." Approaches the next boots: “What will you do to improve your personal life?” “We will watch pornography together.” - "Good answer! Good answer!" All the answers they gave were based on lust. They had three attempts and failed to answer correctly. The host goes to another pile of boots. And everything is the same there! I've never seen anything like this... Neither side answered correctly. When they all answered, the host suggested looking at the correct answer: spending time together, having a romantic dinner, walking together, giving her flowers. Those. everything a fool can understand. But these people don't understand. Do not understand…
Yes, the world has solved the issue of good sex. The basic formula is fantasies. Oh yeah, good idea- ignore the real woman in your life and focus on the one who will never say a word to you. Yes, let's do it, let's pretend, let's live in a fantasy world. We trade real women for fantasy. How can you be so stupid? All this has become a real problem. Do you know who noticed it? Many people have left-wing liberal ideas. They start writing about it, realizing that this is a problem. The sexuality of men is shrinking. They are incapable of sex because they have "overstimulated" themselves with pornography. She destroys them.
I have met women who have told me that their husbands prefer pornography and masturbation to sexual relations with their wives. One day, a woman in her twenties came into my office with a pleasant appearance, well, just a doll. She sits in front of me and says, “My husband hasn't touched my vagina in over a year. He's not interested." - “Yes, you are joking! What does he want? - "He wants me to agree to indecency in a relationship." In pornography, he got all sorts of rubbish. changed real woman on fantasy. And many women have told me that their husbands prefer masturbation to love with them. Fantasies and masturbation are the ideal of good sex... And what do they find in this masturbation that they so passionately defend it as some form of good sex? I do not understand this. I would like to see that first half-wit who, looking at his hand, said: "You know, this little thing looks like a vagina."
All this is starting to destroy the sex life of many men. Don't fool yourself. There is no way in the world that you can do this over and over again without retraining your body. Everyone knows this. Everything related to physical body, athletes know: they train, they repeat the same action over and over again in order to train their body and make it react in a certain way. The military knows that young soldiers need to be trained to react in certain situations in a certain way, and they repeat the tests over and over again. For what? To train your body to act immediately in certain conditions. For God's sake, how can our culture teach teenagers from the age of 13 to masturbate 2-3, sometimes 7 times a day, hoping that it does not turn into a trained reflex in them?! It is true that today many men are not able to build a relationship with a woman. In seminars, I'm told this all the time: guys come up to me, women come up and say that their husbands are not capable of sex. Many modern men are not capable of having sex with a woman. One guy calls me and says that he can make love to his wife for hours and nothing happens. He is unable to achieve orgasm. But alone with himself, he succeeds. Great ... Let's teach this to our children, let's teach them ... He went to the doctor to find out what was wrong with him, and he diagnosed him. I am not kidding. TMS is traumatic masturbatory syndrome.
What are we thinking? Do you know what annoys me the most? When they tell me that this is a way to achieve an orgasm, if you masturbate, there will be an orgasm. Associating the words "masturbation" and "orgasm" is a real madness. You can't orgasm through masturbation! You may ejaculate, you may experience physical sensations, but it is not an orgasm! Orgasm is when you make love to a woman, you reach a climax, endorphin enters the bloodstream, and every cell of your body boils and rushes to the next cell, and you scream: “Hallelujah!”. Here is an orgasm.
Almost universally, people admit that immediately after masturbation they experience the opposite sensation. Filth, filth, guilt. And psychologists tell us, “You shouldn't feel guilty about masturbating. Everything is fine". I'll tell you what: you can fool your mind, but you can't fool your body. Many modern men never reach orgasm. They ejaculate. That's all. They have trained themselves to do so. You can't force your body to do it over and over again and think that it will function normally. All those who are trained to ejaculate are unable to achieve orgasm. Wonderful! Let's teach all our children this. Our children are being misinformed, as are many of you. Lord, don't let them take it on faith! Disinformation destroys a person's sex life, it can do this for the rest of their lives. And no one is telling you what I am telling you now.
You have to understand something: pornography will steal good sex from you. Why is every man tempted? Because he is promised good sex. This is how we are being pulled. A promise to improve sex. But we were deceived. I tell you exactly. The more you do it, and you know you are doing it, the further you are from the goal. The lies that have been and continue to be thrust upon our generation in matters of sexuality are clearly directed lies. We are all crazy in our country. People's lives are being destroyed. Do you know what is the biggest problem in modern America? asexual marriages. It turns out that people do not want sex. They don't want to have sexual relations. They want sex with themselves. Great, they changed a real woman to a fictional one ... Self-centered lazy men demand quick satisfaction and begin to love themselves, not women. Sadly…
“What about our teenagers?”, you ask. Tell them to wait, they won't die from this. No one has yet died due to lack of ejaculation. We are also misinformed about this. People talk about inflammation of the testicles as often as they talk about taxes. I've heard women say, "Won't my son get testicular inflammation if he doesn't masturbate?" No, you won't get sick! This is the biggest mass provocation of myths, ridiculous nonsense. Such a disease exists, but has nothing to do with ejaculation. It is associated with overstimulation over time. The answer is: if you can't stand the overstimulation, go back to normal. This is not a chronic condition, not a torture that a person is forced to live with all his life if he does not masturbate.
Incredible lies. We are not animals. Do you know the difference between animal and human? We can say no. We control ourselves. We live in a culture where the very idea of self-control is considered ridiculous, absurd. There are people who will hear me and say, "I can't believe he said that!" I perform all over the country. And sometimes I come across a typical scenario with one of the experts who comes to the seminar. And I say what I think. And he comes to snot. They say, “Where is your evidence? Where is the proof?" Now I will provide my evidence. They are so ignorant. Do we need to prove it? Prove it? Many things are so obvious... It's like asking for proof that oxygen is good for the lungs. So I will try to prove it to them.
Let's start with scientific explanation, Fine? Let's assume that A (horny woman) plus B (horny man) equals Best Sex. Is that clear to you? Sounds logical? Judge for yourself: if you exclude an excited man from the equation, how will you achieve good sex? If you exclude an excited woman, you will not achieve good sex either. So at the very least agree that for good sex, you need an horny woman and an horny man in the equation.
And now I will conduct a social survey. About pornography. Girls, you have to understand that these experts, therapists, idiots, as I call them, use therapeutic techniques: it's prescribed for you, pornography is prescribed for you, it will improve your intimate life. I ask you women, if you knew that your husband had just watched pornography and wanted to use you to satisfy his needs, thinking about another woman, how many of you would feel sexually aroused? Hands up. Well, let's denote the result of the poll by Zero.
I explained it to people and they said, “You can't do that, you can't ask women if they get turned on. They never raise their hands. They can't, it's not right." Okay, I'll change the question. If you knew that your husband only thinks about you and treats you like the only woman in the world, without thinking about other women, how many of you would feel sexual arousal? Hands up. Oh, so women still raise their hands?! Raise it again, I need to count ... Okay, let's designate this result as "A lot".
For experts who need proof, I checked the formula with the greatest minds in mathematics and after heated discussions found out that "Much" is greater than Zero. Simply brilliant. Now we know that Pornography equals Unexcited Woman. And here you have a problem. If a woman is not turned on by the idea that her husband will fantasize, then a doctor's prescription to watch pornography in order to improve intimate life is pure perverse nonsense. Because once you exclude a woman, you cannot have great sex. Right? I have explained this to people thousands of times. But I have never met a single woman who would say that it would be great ... I'm sure there must be one or two such women somewhere. But in their life everything is so one-sided that it deprives from the mind.
People are so blind that they do not notice the nakedness of the king. That's what the experts say. But we know that repeated exposure to pornography destroys masculinity. I tell you, people have already begun to notice it. We receive a lot of letters, we read about it in secular and liberal magazines. People complain that men are not capable of sex. I know men who, during sex with their wife, insist on having an open porn magazine next to her, so as to keep the arousal during sex. One can only guess how good she feels at the same time ... Why are they doing this? Because if they don't look at a magazine, they won't be able to maintain an erection. So much addiction to pornography. And these people think it's good, cool sex...
So, we know that repeated exposure to pornography destroys masculinity. This will help us discover the formula for better sex.
If A (a horny woman) plus B (a horny man) equals Better Sex, and we know that Pornography means Unexcited Woman, and repeated viewing of Pornography leads to a decrease in masculinity, then it is logical that A + B - Pornography = Better Sex.
And this means that the information from the experts is most likely based on heresy with poor scientific data (nonsense).
Can you imagine how angry these people are with me? But I don't care. I even like it! These people look at me like I'm a Martian. There is one woman who writes for many magazines, interviews. She said, “But I have never heard of such a thing. Isn't masturbation the norm? After all, even children masturbate.” I said that? Children don't masturbate!" And she's like, "Well, they touch themselves." To which I: “Well, I touch myself too.” And besides, what are these, our exemplary children? My grandchildren can eat their poop if I let them. Does this mean we should all eat poop?
These people don't understand anything. They are committing the worst intellectual scam in the world. Do you know why? Because they are all themselves addicted to all this nonsense. Because of the imprinting we talked about at the beginning, these impressed men need constant repetition, playing pornographic scripts in order to enjoy sex.
You must get rid of all this. You need to "redirect". We need to take our cameras and take new pictures. Making love with this girl - forget about everything that happened before. Do not try to resurrect all that garbage in your head, because. he won't give you good sex, he will take it away from you. I swear to you that the key to better sex is to focus on just one woman.
You see, lust is eating snacks all day long. They will kill your appetite before a real meal. Your mom was right. Light snacks disrupt appetite. And if you look at this girl, at that girl, at this magazine, at that pornography, you will lose the need for real sex.
Try, try to live right for at least 30 days. No one has a problem doing anything for 30 days. For 30 days in a row, don't look at other women, don't fantasize about them, don't look at those stupid pornographic magazines. Focus on one girl and see what happens to you. She will come to life again for you. And you for her. She feels that she is becoming the only woman for you. It'll be cool! You will find the best sex in life, I promise you that! Or I will refund your money.
Let's live by the rules. This will change your world. Will change the world. We have an obligation to spread the right information. Your kids need to hear this. They were lied to ... You know, when I speak to teenagers, youth, students, they sit as if stunned. Do you know what they say to me after? They ask, "Why didn't anyone tell us about this?" Because everything they heard is complete nonsense. "So I'm never allowed to touch myself?" I didn't say you shouldn't touch yourself. People say: “What if we don’t see each other for a long time?” - "Fine, fine! But I'm talking about the fact that you live in a house with real woman but you ignore her and make love to yourself!"
This is madness. This is not good sex, this is terrible sex. These guys brag, claim they have good sex. Dupes. For them, the main thing is to fantasize, masturbate, and the third - oppa! - use a condom. This is how, according to the secular world, good sex can be achieved. For me, using a condom is like eating ice cream with a sock on my tongue. Guys, if you want to control birth, use something other than a condom instead. If you don't know the difference between good sex and a condom, we need to discover for you hotline. Save money for medicines. That's what makes all these experts angry. When I say that, they get angry: “You are spreading dangerous information!” No, no and NO! I declare officially: if you are going to have sexual relations outside of marriage, be sure to use a condom. And if I were you, I'd wear two or three condoms. It's like putting groceries in a double bag at the grocery store. But don't fool yourself. Don't fool your head. It's not cool sex. Do you want good sex? Get married. What's great about marriage is that you don't have to use those stupid condoms.
God knew what he was talking about. When He said that one man should only focus on one woman. It's great sex, incredible sex. It will drive you crazy, it will amaze you to the core. All these fantasies, all this nonsense and all that, is death, this is poison. It's not cool sex. All this deprives people of good sex. And they are constantly looking for good sex, trying to at least somehow get satisfaction, trying to get high, like heroin addicts. But they don't succeed. It just doesn't work. This does not work.
You must do the right thing. I know it's hard. Everything that concerns the sexuality of a man and a woman, the perfect balance that we talked about - all this is difficult. But don't forget about it. Pay attention to this topic.
You can't even imagine how men suffer because of sexual temptation. They scream, "God, what do I do with temptation?" Do you know what God will answer these questions? Have sex. I like this answer.
Girls, you should be close to your man. You have no idea how difficult it is for a man. You must be there. Don't ignore your husband's sexual needs. It's okay to fulfill each other's conditions before having sex, I talked about this. But remember that you cannot fundamentally ignore this question. Do you want your husband to praise God tomorrow morning? Then make him smile tonight!
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About sex. Mark Gungor
A man during the first sex captures the state of lust. Not a girl, but sex itself. And then he searches for it all his life, trying to recreate that imprint.
The #1 key to incredible sex.
Among other things, I'm still a pilot. If I were to explain to you how to get from my home (Stevens Point Airport) to Green Bay, I would say that you should keep heading 090. You are flying in a straight line. But this is only if we do not assume any interference. For example, if it blows strong wind from the north, and you are on course 090, then you will not get to Green Bay. It will take you to Milwaukee or God knows where. It all depends on the strength of the wind. So if the wind is strong, we should change course to 065 or something like that. If you keep pointing the plane at the target without considering interference, you will always go off course. You have to turn around to go straight.
Speaking of sexuality, I want to explain how to get from point A to point B. But it all depends on your interference. Everyone has them. You must show wisdom, prudence, common sense to understand why something I have said does not help you achieve your goal, because of your past or something else. I understand that you may have serious interference, and you will have to adjust what you hear to suit your situation.
The reason God asks us to postpone sex until marriage is because having sex outside of marriage risks ruining your whole life. This is especially true for men. Men tend to fix in memory their first sexual experience, prone to imprinting.
If a man's first sexual experience takes place in the context of lust, which usually happens outside of marriage, then everything is connected not so much with love, but with lust, lust, the back seats in the car, with something that is not entirely clear to them. Men tend to fix this experience in their memory. They capture sex, not a girl. Do you understand me? During the first orgasmic experience, the psyche of men reacts like this: “Wow! What was that?” and she starts taking pictures because they want to remember it. They capture it all. That's why a lot of guys get stuck on it. Therefore, many men, even in marriage, are constantly trying to recreate lustful conditions. They try to get sexual pleasure in marriage, they try to get their wives to do for them what they do not want to do. Why do they do it? Because they want to recreate what they once saw.
If the first sexual experience of a man takes place within the framework of marriage, when he is in love with this girl, when people gather and approve of their love, a wedding takes place, they are all approved, and they have the biggest holiday in their whole life, both on their wedding night and in honeymoon comes their first experience, he begins to ... capture the girl. He connects with the girl on a very deep level. This is why people who put off sex until marriage make up a tiny fraction of the total number of divorced people. Because he recorded only her, and not just sex.
In fact, the whole psychology and the whole culture of sex supplying sex professionals is based on lust. After all, they assume that everyone already does this. They encourage people to keep re-creating, fantasizing, imagining and all that. And it has destructive power. And it can be very difficult for men to establish relationships with their wives. Is it possible to end this? Yes, you can. I'll tell you how.
The same applies to women. They also capture, but in a slightly different way. Not so much sex, but what happened after sex. If a woman has sex outside of marriage, nothing happens after sex. There is no closeness, courtship. And they fix in memory: sex means nothing. That is why so many married women have a negative attitude towards sex.
If a woman waits first wedding night, sees what it means, as she enters into a relationship with a man, she understands: sex means everything. This is the key. This is something fundamental.
The first experience is of great importance. God is not shy about sex. God is not a hypocrite. He can look at your nakedness without any problems.
Some people say, “Then it is better not to have sexual relations. It's better to be chaste." No, no and NO. Sex has a huge impact on people. Such that many of you will experience difficulties for the rest of your life. I will help you alleviate your plight. Difficulties, most likely, will not completely go away. All the more reason for you to pass on to your children what I will tell you now.
This question is comparable to human metabolism. Some people eat everything and don't gain weight. We all hate these people. They don't have to think about what to eat. It is natural for them to eat everything and stay slim. And there are other people: we just have to look at the food, and we gain two kilograms. What is the difference between us? We too can keep fit, but at the cost of more effort.
It's the same with sexual metabolism: if you do it right from the start, you'll have a natural, healthy sex metabolism forever. People live with him all his life and usually keep the family. They get married at the age of 18, they die at the age of 103... And the rest are in trouble. And that's not to say that you can't have a good sex life. You can. You can have a great sex life, but for many of you it takes more thought and work than it does for other people. I don't want to disappoint you, but I won't put rose-colored glasses on you either. That is why you should encourage chastity in children.
This is especially important for women, and not only psychologically. Scientists have found that even physical sensations change in women after several sexual partners. After sexual relations enters the woman's blood chemical element, called oxytocin, which brings pleasure and helps emotional bonding. Exactly the same element is released in the blood of a nursing woman. He helps her bond with the baby. Studies have shown that women who have sex with different partners receive less and less oxytocin in the blood. It's simple physical consequence but very significant for women. They will not even physically be able to experience the former pleasure. Therefore, it's not worth it.
You can get it right, you can have a healthy sex life, and I'll show you how. But all the more reason for you to encourage in your children chastity, right behavior. Don't tell them that sex is evil. I told my people that sex is cool. But do it right. If you don't do the right thing, people will get in trouble. Some are hard now, some will be hard all their lives. You can fix everything. It will take more energy, but this is normal. It would be great if everyone could wait. I know they didn't wait.
Much depends on the amount of damage. If there were one or two sexual partners, perhaps the damage was not so severe. But some people engaged in promiscuity outside of marriage. It's hard for you. I know it's hard. I hope that what you have heard in this session will help you.
We will now focus on the woman. Because it's much more difficult. We will look at how to make a woman experience the pleasure of sex. For all men to achieve pleasure, it is enough that you simply appear in front of them. Guys are easy. And women are harder. We will consider this issue from the point of view of stereotypes, bearing in mind that a man is more interested in sex than his wife.
So what does a girl need? I will move from the bottom of the list to the #1 key to incredible sex.
Item 5 - she needs romance.
What pisses me off the most is pornography. At least a dime a dozen of her. The most the main problem pornography in that it has changed the modern man. Men used to love women. But pornography has turned men into self-absorbed pigs. Pornography does not teach you to love a woman, it teaches you to have fun.
If you want to have a good sex life, you must learn to love a girl. Do you know what drives men crazy? That women don't turn on automatically. They are not overwhelmed with sexual desire, like men. Guys say their wives are not interested in sex. Of course they are interested. All women are interested in sex. All women have sexual desire. But they are different from you. Your task is to love her and awaken her sexual desire. Many men do not want to do this. They want freebies. They are freeloaders.
The guy should focus on the girl. It is in front of a man that the goal is to bring his wife to orgasm. You will understand this by her reaction, by her oohs and aahs. Many women feel that they can't express themselves this way. To which I answer them that, girls, if your husband is forced to constantly ask you if you have reached the promised land, then you did not let him understand. Women say they do not know what to do in such a situation. Well, give him some kind of signal, for example, whisper "Bingo" directly into his ear. This is a very strong password. You can talk about it even in the presence of children, and they will not understand what you are talking about.
Loving women, you should focus on the girl. You must surround her with romance. And romance for her is not words in the middle of the night: “Hey, are you awake?” If your wife wakes you up in the middle of the night, please, at least all night. What is it to me? But you can not demand satisfaction at the same moment when you want it. Be nice to the girl. Desire should trigger a romantic mode in you. Your job is to love the girl. All of these desire issues are stressful for many couples. Because all our lives, in all the books, in all the sex education programs, we've heard, "Desire leads to arousal, and arousal leads to sex." One catch: for millions of people, this is not true. Especially for women.
Many women show no sexual desire at all. Because of this, they think badly of themselves. Because they think they should feel something. Who said they should? Is it in some stupid textbook about this? Isn't it all the same?
In conversations with couples, when guys said, "She doesn't want sex at all," I asked them, "Can I ask you? Does she refuse sex? - "No" - "What does she like? What is she doing?" "Well, she's cool." And I discovered the fact that the sexiest people on earth have little or no interest in sex. While sexual tigresses begin to feel desire only during sex itself. They don't show desire first.
Change your attitude. Because thinking “I don’t feel anything, something is wrong with me,” you acquire a negative attitude towards sex. And a lot of guys get mad at their wives because "she never initiates sex." Who cares? I tell you, in my house I am the initiator. Who cares? These conversations have confused a lot of people. Many women will not become like this until you yourself begin to awaken them! Therefore, you must learn to love a girl. Learn how to awaken desire in her. Hence the next point.
Point 4 - she needs foreplay.
Many men initiate sex with the question: "Do you want sex?". More often than not, the answer they get is "No." Why ask a question that is most often answered with “no”? If you think romance and foreplay are all about "want sex?", then you're not okay. Let's turn to Solomon: "This camp of yours is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like bunches of grapes." The problem is, most guys don't want to take the time to climb a palm tree. They, like pickers of cherries and hops, sit with a can of Cola and shout: “Come here! Do you want sex? Did you wake up? Come on!". Stop it! You must learn to climb the palm tree. You have to learn how to approach a girl, how to be romantic with her. And you have to mix it all up. Don't be afraid of anything! As soon as you touch her, she already understands what will happen next. Why is she behaving like this? Because you behave in such a way that everything is immediately clear and predictable. She is not interested in patterns. Men are formulaic by nature: do this, you get this and that. If you stay that way with her all the time, she'll just say, "Get off me."
You need a mixed approach. Learn to climb a palm tree. If you really want a good foreplay, let it be a 24 hour affair. I call it slow roasting my woman. And it turns out great! Don't rush anywhere. Kiss the girl and leave her alone. Flirt with her and leave her alone. Touch the girl and leave her alone. She starts wondering what's going on?
My wife is out of the shower. I tell her: “Bunny, lie down. I'll give you a massage." She falls asleep. I cover her. I go to another room, turn off the light, as if I was going to sleep.
Someone will say: "I'd rather wait until she wants to." Enough! You will grow old while you wait.
Point 3 - she needs time.
Let us turn again to Solomon: “Oh, you are beautiful, my beloved, you are beautiful! Your eyes are dove under your curls ... Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon, and your lips are kind ... As long as the night breathes coolness, and the shadows run away. All night long! What will he do all night? "I will go to the mountain of myrrh and to the hill of incense." What are these words about, pastor? I'll explain now. He talks about her hair, her eyes, her nose, her lips, her neck, her chest... Myrrh mountain - where do you think it is? And the great thing is that he was there all night.
A very tricky question arises. Count, if a woman needs from seven to fourteen minutes, and a guy manages in two minutes, then something somewhere does not converge. And the worst thing: two minutes is an average. Guys, you are capable of more than a two-minute forced march. You can use all kinds of books, exercises. I don't like exercise, but in this matter I can exercise. You can overcome the problem of two minutes of pounding.
Girls, you must remember that the most important thing in breaking the two-minute threshold is regular, consistent sex. You make a guy wait two weeks, so he makes a loud cry after 30 seconds. You must help the guy become your lover. You must help replenish his supply of vitality. But you guys should focus on the girl. Some people think only about themselves, that two minutes is more than enough, I will let her go faster ... And then how do you demand sexual desire from her? What is her interest in this? I know some women who, for their entire family life never had an orgasm. Never! But those who have had orgasms before marriage know what I'm talking about. Guys, we're capable of more than a two-minute marathon.
Point 2 - she needs privacy.
It will be very difficult for a woman to turn on sexually, turn on, if she does not feel that love with you will be private and safe. This means that, most likely, if there are guests waiting for you at dinner in the next room, she will not care. Many guys in this situation have no problem. Such sex should not be your goal, otherwise you are a sucker.
This is why, for many women, having a baby dulls sexual desire. I call children "anti-sex". Because they are everywhere, they are everywhere, and it is difficult for women to feel sexual attraction. You must solve these problems for her. And you girls, know that there is a lock on the door. And use it! You cannot simply ignore your husband's sexual needs until your children come of age. With the advent of children, everything changes. You are no longer the same. Guys, you need to understand that both physically and emotionally women are different. Everything has changed. These lovely curvy breasts go from erogenous zone to venture Catering. Guys, they touch her all day long! And then you come home: "Hey baby!" And in response: “If you touch me, I will kill you on the spot!” If a couple of monkeys play with your testicles all day, how will you feel at the end of the day? Guys, she's different! But girls, he's still the same! Nothing happened to him. He's still the same wild boy you married.
But many couples make mistakes in these matters, which is why many marriages live only up to 4-7 years. This time is enough for resentment and regret to arise, and you could not change everything, which destroys your relationship. Girls, don't get into motherhood so much that you forget about your husband's sexual needs. “But the child needs me,” you say. Do you know what a child needs? He needs a father. And if nothing changes, the father of the child will not remain.
Girls, be careful rejecting your husbands. Three or four rejections - and this is enough for the husband's sexuality to close. If your husband is arguing with you about sex, consider yourself lucky. Because at least he doesn't hide his feelings. But a lot of guys just shut down. She returns to life, to her former state. But she doesn't care about him anymore. He will no longer feel that it is safe to be the initiator. You ask what to do? People rarely reconnect with old people. You may have to take the initiative yourself ... But be careful all the time. I understand you are tired. And you guys understand a simple thing: the girl is tired, let her rest, leave her alone.
Recently, studies of men have shown the sequence of their interests: sex, food and sleep. And studies of women have shown this sequence: sleep, food and sex. Help the girl, let her rest. Pause. If you want her to love you, then let her sleep. Take these little robbers on yourself and let them suck all the blood out of you.
All this brings us to the main key to incredible sex.
Such a person as Gangor Mark, it would seem, cannot exist in the world. Church ministers don't spout jokes, fool around in public, or make thousands of people laugh non-stop for hours on end.
But it turns out that it is precisely this approach that allows the world-famous pastor to teach believers God's law and the secrets of a happy marriage.
Mark Gangor: biography of a clergyman
The hero of numerous television and radio programs lives and works in Green Bay, Wisconsin, USA. He leads the Christian Church of Glorification, a large religious institution with three branches.
Previously, Gungor was the founder of a church in Stevens Point, Wisconsin. In 4 years of ministry, he managed to increase the number of members of the small parish from 35 to 500.
Psychologist, artist, writer and … pilot
It is said that Mark held the first seminar for married couples out of necessity, because "there were no others willing to do this work."
The listeners were fascinated by the lecturer and were looking forward to new lessons. So Gangor began to speak regularly to the parishioners.
Soon he founded the company "Laugh as you like."
This preacher does not have the seriously judgmental expression that many teachers have. He is a talented comedian. Gangor Mark allows himself to "hooligan" in front of the public: draw funny pictures, dance, parody unlucky husbands and wives with facial expressions and gestures.
Today, the pastor leads an active itinerant lifestyle, giving lectures in the United States and Mexico. His classes invariably gather thousands of people seeking happiness in mutual love with marriage partners.
Gangor Mark wrote 14 books on the psychology of the relationship between a man and a woman. The most famous of them, also translated into Russian, is "Laughter is the best helper in marriage."
Taking off his cassock for a while, the pastor makes inspiring speeches at official meetings, business meetings, and city-wide events. He is in demand as a speaker in the US Army.
American media companies regularly invite Gangor to become the hero of new program releases. The pastor also hosts an author's program broadcast on 250 national radio waves.
Mark is proud to tell the audience of his seminars that in his spare time he enjoys music and learns to fly an airplane.
Not only a theorist
Gangor himself has been happily married for over 42 years to his beloved Debbie, whom he met at school. A faithful wife accompanies the pastor on all trips.
The two children of the Gangors are also "deeply" married.
The youngest generation of the family is represented by grandchildren: four boys and two girls, Anna and Elsa.
Loyalty to yourself
Being devoted to God, following the commandments of the Heavenly Father does not mean living monotonously and yearning. Gangor Mark tries to convey this idea to his listeners, and he succeeds.
Behind the game of comedian are solid principles of life, which the pastor preaches and highly honors. Kindness and love always remain the main values for Gangor.
