What does arrogant person mean. What is impudence? What is the difference between arrogance and courage? Insolence - is it good or bad? Change your attitude towards life

How many proverbs and sayings there are in the Russian language with the word impudence: “Impudence is the second happiness”, “Give free rein to the impudent one - he will want more”. This word is mentioned several times even in the Bible, but what does it mean?

Meaning of the word

The noun "impudence" is a word derived from the adjective "impudent". Means a character trait akin to impudence and audacity. Manifested in a direct look at point-blank range, raising his voice or tone, an attempt to confuse the interlocutor in any way. It is most often the result of impunity and a sense of security, a sense of superiority over others due to high social status, self-confidence or despair.

In other people, arrogance causes contempt, irritation or a desire to resist.

From the old Russian "impudence" the word "impudence" came from. The meaning of the word then was somewhat different - "quick, fast." Knowing this, you already look at the established expression in a different way: “Look, how fast!” You can safely say: “Look, how arrogant!” - and the value will not change.

The main signs of arrogance

Who is most often called an insolent? After all, this quality has very wide and blurred boundaries. Some call arrogance impudence, while others call it excessive confidence.

So, an impudent person is one who is characterized by the following qualities:

• complete disregard for the opinion of society, the norms established by it, if the latter stand in the way of the goal;
• without a shadow of embarrassment, a person can take what does not belong to him, if he wants;
• The insolent puts his interests above all else. He has no love for children or women. If a person needs it, he will "go over their heads";
• if a remark is made to an arrogant person, he will remain silent or begin to be rude, but he will not change his tactics of behavior;
• completely absent a sense of shame, and do not care what you think;
• persistent and demanding, there is also the expression "takes impudently";
• constantly interferes in the affairs of others, while imposing a point of view, even when he is not asked.

Being arrogant - good or bad?

Of course, if arrogance is something like a lack of shame or self-confident impudence, then it is bad for those around you. But today, when the world belongs to self-confident people, the word "impudence" also means complete confidence in the actions performed by a person. The main thing is not to be arrogant towards opponents. In this vein, this concept has a positive connotation.

The antagonism of "positive" arrogance will be self-doubt and fear of taking a step towards changing life. At its core, arrogance and self-doubt are sides of the same coin.

Uncertainty and arrogance: are they close?

So what does the word "arrogance" mean? Its meaning becomes more understandable if we decompose arrogance as a manifestation into its components. It immediately becomes clear that an insolent person is often just an insecure person. Only in order to prove to himself and others that this is not so, an insecure person begins to show impudence.

He has an exaggerated sense of "importance", and in order to confirm to himself that he is irreplaceable and priceless, the insolent (read - insecure) seeks to humiliate others in order to exalt himself in his own eyes. Someone to humiliate? And the locker will come, let's kick it, there is nothing to stand in the way of such an "important" person. And the insolent asserts himself out of fear of humiliation. Note that an insolent person will never humiliate a person if he feels strength and power in advance. slows him down.

When arrogance enters into a confrontation with wisdom, it is like a meeting between an elephant and a Pug. A wise elephant does not need to assert himself, he is confident in himself, in his strength. That is why he is so calm. And the mongrel always barks, but inside her every hamstring trembles. She, overcoming fear, asserts herself.

The insolent cannot understand one thing for himself, that the “strength” that rests on the “weakness” of others is worthless. In fact, strength lies in the ability to achieve one's own without pressure and humiliation of others, weaker ones. Insolence is a complete misunderstanding of yourself and your needs.

Why do we get annoyed by someone else's arrogance?

It is an irritant for everyone that lives in us and we do not like or are forbidden. In other words, the impudence of another person irritates us, because it lives in ourselves. We ourselves would be glad to assert ourselves at the expense of others, but we do not like it when they assert themselves at our expense.

But being insolent is not so bad if we hold back this trait in ourselves, suppress it and let it out in the form of confidence. As soon as an understanding of oneself comes, someone else's impudence, the meaning of which becomes clear to us, ceases to irritate us.

What benefit can

If “positive” impudence lives in you, it can even help you in some way. There are five aspects of the positive impact of this quality on you and your life:

1. Your self-esteem will rise. Often, public opinion and cliches hammered in in childhood prevent a person from starting to act. And if there is also a lack of self-confidence, then the fear of getting the opinion that you are just an insolent person is holding back a person from moving forward. Spontaneous actions help to increase appreciation in your own eyes (the main thing is that actions are not directed to the detriment of another person).
2. Your situation will improve. Having committed, we then often reproach ourselves, feel guilty, but time passes, and we understand that this particular one was the most correct. So, arrogance is what helped to solve a situation that was simply unrealistic to solve in another way.
3. Life starts to change. Read it and you will notice how many examples there are when such “arrogant”, thoughtless, actions performed on intuition led to a radical change in the entire course of life. Career began to go uphill, prosperity grew, success came. And people just did what others considered unacceptable. That is, they were insolent.
4. The desired is achieved. Often people discuss other people's requests. It so happened that in our time it is considered: to ask means to be humiliated, and if you also ask for yourself, then this is simply unacceptable arrogance. But successful people look at the request in a completely different way. You just need to ask the right people in the right way.
5. The emergence of perseverance in action. Often, our perseverance is taken by others for arrogance. But is it right? Even the Bible says, "Knock, it will be opened to you." And if the desired result is obtained and you celebrate the victory, then is the opinion of others so important?

Is it worth it to be rude?

If we consider the word “impudence”, which is defined from the point of view of the above aspects, then the word “insolent” thrown at the back will no longer sound like an insult, but like a recognition - you are on the right track, moving towards your goal. And people have always condemned and discussed those who stand out from the crowd.

If you know that you are acting for the good (your own) and do not harm others, then what do you care about someone else's opinion? Just move towards your goal and don't be afraid to take risks.

About the mental phenomenon "impudence"

Manifestations of arrogance are little studied from the standpoint of psychophysiology. The article will show that this is an important mark of the stage of passing the process of forming any skills, a side effect of a skill that is not yet completely confidently developed in the face of the urgent need to obtain the desired result with certain obstacles to this.

The word "arrogance" in everyday life is clearly shocking in nature, but should not interfere with the correct consideration of its psychophysiological background, and so far there is no reason to choose a more euphonious, "scientific" term for it.

Of course, what the development of individual manifestations of impudence into a style of impudent behavior can lead to goes far beyond the root causes, as it happens with literally all the makings of adaptive mechanisms of creativity: art and science, which, in turn, are qualitatively divided into many types. So the article will consider only the primary mechanism and its manifestations.

The current understanding of the meaning of the word .

As a rule, the word impudence is understood as impudent behavior that encroaches on generally accepted norms, an expression of protest by scandalous (outrageous) means.

Impudence (the original meaning of this word is “suddenness, speed, courage”, cf. the expression How dare you!) - impudence, impudence. Possible manifestations are heightened tone, loudness of voice, looking straight into the eyes, without looking away (piercing gaze, point-blank gaze), attempts to confuse the interlocutor with something, the use of lies, a smirk, sticking out thumbs and moving them. It may be the result of self-confidence, a high social position, a different feeling of superiority, despair, indignation, a sense of one's security. Typical reaction - irritation, contempt, opposition.

By the way, outrageous characteristic avant-garde, and partly modernist (one way or another, but any destructive) to art, but refers to "non-aesthetic, and even more so to non-artistic reactions." From the point of view of psychology, shocking is one of the forms of demonstrative behavior..

Arrogance and self-doubt as two polarities

...Impudence is something like shamelessness and bold self-confident insolence which borders on rudeness. Sometimes impudence has a positive connotation when the emphasis is on confidence in their actions, and not on their impudence. In our time diffidence often contrasted with such "positive" arrogance.

With all this seemingly quite unambiguous understanding, the boundaries of the phenomenon turn out to be quite blurred, and the manifestations of impudence themselves are controversial, if we do not consider how and why impudence arises, at what time of development of the individual it begins to manifest itself and what is the reason for this. Moreover, the phenomenon has hardly been studied from the position of psychophysiology, although a lot of literature provides purely empirical studies of the manifestations of impudence in the description of the periodization of the development of an organism. And these manifestations concern not only the person.

The specialized complex of brain regions that govern social behavior was first found in mammals, then in other terrestrial vertebrates, and even in fish. American biologists have shown that in different groups of vertebrates not only the structure of this complex is similar, but also the nature of the work of key genes in it. Those differences that still exist, to a greater extent affect the synthesis of signaling substances (neurotransmitters) and to a lesser extent - the distribution of receptors that respond to these substances. Apparently, already the last common ancestor of ray-finned fishes and terrestrial vertebrates had a socially oriented neural network, the main structural and neurochemical properties of which changed very slowly in the course of further evolution.

... The most surprising property of the SDM network is its evolutionary conservatism, that is, the extremely slow pace of evolutionary change...the basic socially oriented tasks of all vertebrates are similar: to attract good sexual partners, overcome competitors, improve their social status, raise more healthy offspring... This fundamental similarity of life aspirations probably creates the preconditions for the development of more or less universal social neuronal structures in the course of evolution.

The commonality of the mechanisms for the manifestation of impudence and the existing factual materials make it possible to systematize and concretize the mechanism, thereby more correctly clarifying the formal definition. Which will be done in this article.

Here are some illustrative examples of their empirical articles.

When a child is rude and bickering

Yes, children sometimes tend to show impudence! ... Most often, the reason for this behavior is that a small child simply tests on his parents what he learned from television programs or heard from older children living in the neighborhood.

Even if your six-year-old child, when you put him to bed, will show great ability in an argument, proving that he is not tired at all, let him know that you know more. You can, of course, praise his manner of conducting a dialogue and promise that you will listen to him later, but at the same time indicate that you still know better when he goes to bed .... Families where children do not hesitate to approach their parents in order to calmly present their arguments on a particular issue, can be considered healthy families. However, even in such democratic families, where everyone can say what he thinks, there are situations when the last word must necessarily remain with the parents. If you find yourself in a situation in which you must show your power, then you need to immediately clearly determine that now is such a moment, and then decisively stop any discussion.

Hyperactivity - one of the most common behavioral dysfunctions that has a significant impact on the development of a child ... In the age group up to 7 years, behavioral disorders in the form of hyperactivity with attention disorders are accompanied by a delay in psychomotor development: a lag in the development of fine and gross motor skills, auditory and visual perception, etc. .d. There is a slight transition from tears to laughter. Age interests, including intellectual ones (for example, in the content and illustrations of books), may be underdeveloped. There are violations of social interactions, especially with adults: children do not keep their distance, are familiar, tend to show impudence. Peers often reject such children because of their impulsiveness and outbursts of anger, not being able to follow the rules in games, sowing discord..

Hyperactivity is characteristic not only for developmental pathologies caused by internal factors, but also as the initial period of developing adaptive skills in any area and at any age. In this case, problems with attention and assessment of the significance of what is perceived in the context of the development of new ideas will have the specifics of DVGA. The fact that this provokes manifestations of arrogance speaks of the conditions of still insufficient sophistication, insufficient confidence and inability to be prudent in these new circumstances.

The teenage crisis is not as straightforward as it seems at first glance. There are different manifestations, let's designate extreme cases: the teenage crisis of "excessive independence" (denial of authority, negative behavioral manifestations, aggression, rudeness, the desire for independence in any way, stubbornness, arrogance, opposing oneself to others, etc.) and the teenage crisis " excessive dependence" (complete lack of independence, dependence on other people, infantilism in attitudes and behavior, the desire to be with everyone and "like everyone else", loyalty to authorities, the desire to be the "right" child, a return to more childish interests, etc.)

Psychophysiology of the phenomenon .

Taking into account that the child goes through critical periods of development of brain structures, each of which is characterized by its own specifics of the best sensory activity (which is discussed on the Chronotop parallel site) and specific manifestations of mental reactions occur, it is possible to find the place of onset and development of manifestations of impudence.

The period of gullible learning is replaced by a period of playful trampling of authorities. However, the origins of arrogance arise earlier, when there is an urgent need (no matter what the conditioned one), or rather, there is a dominant motivation that determines the context of behavior requires the implementation of this behavior at all costs.

This state differs from the commonly used understanding of the word "arrogance" in that the action is not hindered by any motivation that contradicts it, and it is carried out as soon as it arises. Of course, a frustrated parent might think of a child who literally ruined his freshly changed linen as impudence. But impudence is an active opposition to someone or something, rendered by a subject who has shown such impudence without a sufficiently confident prediction of the consequences. Although the infant does not have any predictions of consequences at all, he does not make a conscious volitional effort to overcome the internal conflict, his impudence is still involuntary.

During the period of game trampling of authorities there is already a baggage of perceived norms of behavior, which often finds itself in conflict with the current dominant motivation, and there is still no sure forecast of how the attempt to break the norm will end. If motivation exceeds the blocking effect of norms, it becomes possible to display impudence in behavior in all cases when there is no time or ability to comprehend the situation more creatively.

At the end of gullible learning for the entire period of playing trampling on authorities, a person shows more decisive, revolutionary options for testing behavior with still very little life experience, which cuts off many such options, which, of course, ends badly in many attempts to gain extreme experience. This dependence is smoothly corrected by the sad experience of unsuccessful attempts, leaving more conservative options viable. (see Revolutions are in vain in young countries)

So, arrogance is an attempt to take active actions 1) under the conditions of a motivational dominant, 2) in conflict with previous experience, with 3) significant uncertainty (lack of a confident forecast) and 4) lack of time or comprehension skills. If the dominant exceeds the uncertainty and taboo of morality, then the action is performed.

It seems that such a definition, which formalizes the identified mechanisms of the psyche (a triggering stimulus in the context of active motivation that exceeds the risk of predicted consequences accessible to awareness), most fully correlates with the current understanding of the word "impudence".

Insolence is always an act of conscious will, requiring volitional effort to overcome the restraining factors of previous experience, if it has not already become a style of unconscious behavior.

Insolence is a step dictated not by reason (creative understanding of the situation with finding an acceptable course of action in terms of risks), but by an acute subjectively conditioned need for action (see Dangers). This is aggression, first of all, in relation to one's previous experience.

An impudent action, which ended successfully with the desired results, receives a positive assessment (“impudence is the second happiness”), and at this the dominant is exhausted, freeing the area of ​​awareness.

In case of failure, a negative experience is acquired that blocks such actions, but the motivational dominant may remain, more inclining to creative, rather than extreme, finding a behavior option.

In the case of a delay in the action of the dominant, it can exist for years and develop as an unsolved, but very urgent problem, acquiring a multitude of subjectively produced assumptions, of which those that promise the desired result have a clear preference. This is the way of growth of subjectivisms, inadequacies. This is the way of development of the fixed idea in the conditions of conflict with the carriers of unacceptable views, and, accordingly, with all the attributes of the development of paranoid schizophrenia, with obligatory conspiracy theories and with increased chances of irreparable mental disorders.

In attempts to justify the desired idea, with insufficient determination or the ability to implement it, there is more and more absurdity, obvious from an outside point of view, vices of thinking that are not noticed by the bearer of an important idea.

Examples of manifestations of arrogance and its consequences .

Anyone who raised a child has faced the situation of the impossibility of explaining something reasonably to him if the child still lacks the intermediate concepts necessary for understanding, but he really wants something to the point of impatience. There is a feeling of powerlessness, despite all the wisdom of an adult. With a persistent attempt to reason and explain something, with active arrogance of bickering, such states sometimes arise that a feeling of absurdity of one’s own understanding of the situation is added to impotence, that with accumulated fatigue and endless attempts to explain and reciprocal bickering can actually damage the psyche.

The child believes that the parent is wrong in some important matter for him, tries to brazenly challenge the correctness with aggressive attempts to impose his naive ideas. In this case, accordingly, any reasoning arguments are useless. Two conflicting parties in this way differ in that the more experienced one easily sees the essence of the delusions of the naive, but cannot explain this due to the insufficiency of intermediate ideas in the naive. The impudent one, with the power of his motivating dominant, weeds out everything that contradicts it, strengthens all the forecasts that are positive for his idea, comes up with arguments in support, not noticing (not wanting to notice) the contradictory. In the end, his confidence turns out to be no less than the confidence of an experienced person, despite the obvious inadequacy and untestedness of the idea in practice.

Many examples of impudence are easy to find in the statements of naive oppositionists. Thus, they ardently convince themselves and others that there were 200,000 participants on the "March of Millions" on June 12, 2012, not noticing that the capacity of the venue does not exceed 50,000, and the indication of infidelity only causes attempts in any way to justify, first of all, in their words, this figure and transfer the viciousness of impudent logic to opponents, attributing to them exactly what they themselves are not correct.

It is characterized by impudence about Onishchenko, where the author is in a shocking form ( G. Onishchenko banned Russians eat sushi) complains that the head physician of the country does not recommend eating sushi in a restaurant - as a result of checking these restaurants for compliance with sanitary standards for controlling fish for helminths. As an additional argument against the top specialist of the country, who has gone out of his mind, the author cites Onishchenko's recommendation, which he considers deadly, not to be afraid to use GMOs. The author, obviously for specialists, proved himself to be a complete layman in the issues raised, far from Onishchenko's level of understanding, but some features of Onishchenko's speech gave him grounds to suspect him of absurdity and malicious intent. All signs of impudence in this example are present.

One can cite and recall many examples of the manifestation of impudence in relation not to the opponent, but to inanimate deterrents. If you really need to jump over the fast current, but there is no certainty that you will jump to the other side, but you really need to, then this state of aggressive arrogance may arise with the commission of risky actions. The experience gained will correct the ideas about the possible, but if you do not decide, but develop these ideas, for example, in a strong desire to fly with the effort of thought (or something paranormal), then a complex of inadequacies will arise that provoke multiple manifestations of arrogance that are already difficult to correct from - for the developed motivational dominant (fixed ideas).

Almost always, people who have reached some heights in the development of professional skills are in many other ways perceived as all ordinary, unremarkable, even repulsive people and, moreover, often show signs that are perceived negatively (an eccentric professor, a scientist who has lost his mind, etc.). .p.), which are sufficient grounds for them to be challenged by those who in this area do not have any comparable ideas in depth, but have a pronounced motivation to aggressively challenge the undesirable.

Benefit-harm.

Dissatisfaction with the existing, generating creativity, is positive for the adaptability of not only the individual, but also other members of the species connected by a common culture, but if this is combined with a motivational dominant that requires immediate action or manifestation of one’s attitude in order to influence others, then an aggressive attempt arises. subordination of one's will, just as the will has already subordinated to the dominant the previous personal experience in conflict with it. But the uncertainty generated by the lack of experience in such actions carries a very high probability of inadequacy, i.e. in most cases, such actions will be to the detriment of the general adaptability of the species. This is somewhat reminiscent of the situation with mutations, the vast majority of which are harmful and only a few, which turn out to be fortunate by chance, provide an evolutionary advantage.

In view of the vast majority of inadequate outcomes of impudent actions, impudence is generally perceived negatively, therefore, an indication of impudence is perceived as an insult, although this should be a signal to reason for the insolent person.

A revolutionary is a carrier of a motivational dominant who has overcome its conflicts in himself and is trying to do it in relation to others. The results of revolutions have the most serious consequences for all those who did not share the convictions and all those who unwittingly found themselves under the pernicious influence of the inadequacy of ideas. If the desire for innovation is mainly characteristic of a relatively early age, impudence can manifest itself at any age if the conditions for its occurrence are met.

In any country, at any level of democracy and prosperity, there is a percentage of people who, in certain situations, find themselves in conditions conducive to the manifestation of arrogance. It would not be correct to call them full-fledged oppositionists. These are naive oppositionists or impudent ones.

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How to recognize in yourself and others manifestations of arrogance?

Unexpected manifestations of ardor in considering the problem that motivates the arrogance of manifestations of this ardor can surprise the person who shows impudence in itself, make him perplexed, but not abandon the idea.

As already noted, from the point of view of sophisticated people, naivety is instantly recognized on the basis of experience and, accordingly, impudence is recognized. There are no problems here: the teacher immediately sees the student's mistake, no matter how he justifies himself. And he usually has sufficient skill and ability to overcome brazen resistance.

Insolence is something like shamelessness and impudent self-confident impudence, which borders on rudeness. Sometimes arrogance has a positive connotation when the emphasis is on confidence in the actions taken, and not on their arrogance. Our self-doubt is often contrasted with such "positive" arrogance. In the speech was about self-doubt, fear of decisive action and changes in life. In this vein, overcoming fear is not even arrogance, but rather such an awareness of what is happening when it becomes clear that fears are groundless and do not make sense. There is no longer any opposition to this. However, a modern “self-confident” person often gets stuck precisely between the opposing “arrogance” and “uncertainty” in his abilities, finding himself either on one pole of this antagonism, or on the other. Let's try to understand the essence of these phenomena.

Take, for example, such an everyday situation when a checkpoint is set up at the entrance to work. Let's say that several times in the past you have already forgotten your pass, and the guard, violating the charter, let you through because he "entered into your position", because he knows that you really work here. You are almost used to the loyalty of the local security service. But now, a new guard has recently appeared, arrogant, strict in face and unfriendly. And now, once again absent-mindedness happened to you. The pass was left at home, you look at the guard with a smile, apologize, but he waves his head, they say, and there can be no question! They have their own rules! Flirting with the guard does not lead to anything. He does not care that you have to return home for a pass, and then write an "explanatory letter". And at this time, a completely “adequate” feeling of irritation may arise. What is really going on? Is it really justified in this situation, irritation at the "arrogance"?

In such situations, in order to get rid of a painful reaction, it is necessary to clearly understand what guides its participants. As a rule, it is enough to understand the cause of the external stimulus. If the apparent reason is the behavior of the guard, then it is necessary to analyze this, the visible reason. Why did the security guard show impudence? Because you bastard? This is not an external cause, but a personal subjective reaction. For now, let's talk about external causes.

A guard can be annoyingly scrupulous simply because he is afraid of being punished for violating the rules. It is easy to understand a person who is afraid. Fear can be expressed as external concern, or something like "righteous" anger. But even this level of understanding of the external cause can keep the anger directed at the frightened guard. “Inappropriate stupidity” can irritate - they say, “you can’t be such a blockhead as to create problems for others because of unreasonable fears!”. If you believe that the guard's fear is due to his limited understanding of the situation, it is worth understanding what exactly the person is afraid of. He (“in vain”) may be afraid of losing his job, or fear that a reprimand from his superiors will make him experience humiliation and even more fear. Here the connection between an act and its cause is quite simple to understand. It's easy to understand fear. When a person is afraid, he suffers. Harder to understand arrogance.

To understand arrogance, you need to decompose it into components that are easier to understand. As already mentioned, arrogance and self-doubt are two poles. In essence, these are two sides of the same coin, the same phenomenon. An insolent person is an insecure person. And in order to somehow balance this self-doubt, in order to prove to himself that everything is different, a self-doubt person begins to show impudence. He does not know himself, and therefore seeks confirmation from external sources. He is forced to look for confirmation of this "importance" in the outside world, in how others react to him.

Sometimes, an insolent person, in order to make sure that he is an “important” person, can humiliate another person for this purpose, or kick the door of his own closet, which suddenly got in the way of an “important” person. An insolent person asserts himself because he is afraid to endure humiliation. A person shows impudence to maintain his self-esteem, to prove to himself that he is important! .

Perhaps the example of arrogance and self-doubt at the checkpoint is not the most revealing. There can be any examples: situations on the roads, in queues, during the division of “booty”, etc. Everyone in life can have their own examples, depending on experience and data in the subconscious. Figuratively speaking, when two impudent men meet, it is like a meeting of two young bulls who cannot part in any way on a narrow path.

When arrogance meets wisdom, it's like a badass karate novice goading an experienced black belt. An experienced one can consciously give in, show flexibility, because he is already confident in himself, he does not need external confirmation of his strength, which the beginner needs so much. The big smart dog is calm, and the little mongrel barks at all passers-by.

When “strength” rests on the weakness of others, such strength is worthless. True strength is to be able to insist on one's own, to give back to an equal, but at the same time not to do this under the influence of self-affirmation. A strong person will not push unless the situation calls for it. Good is not a crusade against "infidels". Good is stronger than evil, not because "he who wins is good." Good is wisdom, understanding the consequences, understanding yourself and your true needs. No one can desire violence with all their heart. Insolence is a distorted, incomplete understanding of one's own nature. Good is stronger than evil, because a good person has learned the futility of evil.

It may seem that in this article arrogance and self-doubt are criticized. The only goal that I actually pursue here is to display this mental mechanism on a verbal level. Ideally, it is worth remembering that both arrogance and self-doubt are superficial, it is a mental illusion that spends a lot of energy. Audacity and self-doubt are short-sighted "advisers". Their leadership leads to painful extremes and delusions. Without arrogance and self-doubt, there is more energy and clarity for.

You can forgive another person, stop being annoyed when there is a deep, clear understanding of his actions. Moreover, what really irritates us is what lives in ourselves. We are annoyed by the arrogance of another person, because we forbid ourselves to show this quality. The impudence of the "other" person - on external reality. Someone else's unacceptable arrogance is our own arrogance, which our personal inner censor roughly shoved into the pantry of the unconscious. And now she breaks out of there in the form of an angry irritant.

In other words, we prohibit someone else's impudence simply because we have forbidden it to ourselves. Being arrogant is not "bad" at all. As long as repressed insolence lasts, it is useful to bring it to the surface in a practical and moderate manner in the form of appropriate "confidence." Then, someone else's arrogance will not cause envy and irritation. This is already a deeper work on a personal inner level.

In the end it all comes down to . The fear of an insecure impudent person is easier to forgive than impudence. We are all still learning. The ego is stable in dynamic equilibrium. - a structure that is constantly flowing, changing, supplemented by new "strokes". Therefore, the ego is in constant search for new supports. There is never “enough” for this structure, it is always “not enough”. The ego is constantly looking for external confirmation of its prosperity. But even at this level, relative calm is achievable, when a person frees himself from the polarity of self-doubt impudence.

To harmonize and eliminate specific fears, it may be appropriate to analyze the situation, an example of which is given in this article, and following the methods mentioned in the article "". To eliminate fear completely, you need to know yourself, your true. This is the spiritual state of the Buddha. Sincere striving for this can teach a lot. But here I will not advise "enlightening" and meditating. Everyone balances life most effectively with those "tools" that are available on the current one.

Pay attention to their conversations. Don't eavesdrop, but when they speak to you or those around you, listen carefully. Do they only talk about themselves? Do they get angry or annoyed when they stop being the center of attention? These are quite serious signs of arrogance.

• Arrogance and self-satisfaction often simply indicate a lack of life experience and a concern that those who have more of it "have advantages over them." Instead of learning more, asking questions, and learning (which they perceive as a weakness), arrogant people usually draw general conclusions from their limited experience and try to impose their narrow point of view on everyone else.
• Out of envy of your accomplishments or lifestyle, some may flaunt their superiority over you in what they think they are better at or because of what they have and you don't.
• Brazen people have a strong need to look good. If you make them look bad - even the slightest remark - their reaction is usually very aggressive. For example, if you question (or they think you question) their appearance, intelligence, athletic ability, or something else related to their image.

Agree that arrogance is a rather ambiguous quality: it can provide a great service to the “user” and at the same time irritate the “observers” wildly. The impudence of impudence is different! It can be a consciously chosen life position or a self-defense reflex, a momentary desire to let the dust in your eyes or innate thinking. So, let's try to figure out what's what.

Insolence has many synonyms that differ not so much in meaning as in emotional coloring: insolence, impudence, shamelessness, rudeness, impudence. Possible manifestations are an increased tone, a look at a superior in rank, attempts to embarrass the interlocutor with something, the use of lies, cynical and sarcastic statements, a smirk, unleashed behavior, excessive demands, etc. You can't describe everything!

useful quality

“Often courage alone is not enough, more impudence is needed” (Stanislav Jerzy Lec). That is, when the emphasis is on confidence in the actions taken, and not on their impudence, arrogance has a positive connotation and is opposed to self-doubt. In a word, arrogance can be seen as the ability to hurt, cling, interest people. It can be compared to spicy peppercorns, which turn an insipid dish into a delicacy.

We have already forgotten that once the word "arrogant" meant "quick, sudden, unexpected" (in the Ukrainian language this meaning has been preserved). And “daring” means “brave”: hence such wonderful words as “dare”, “dare”, “decide”, “dare” and even “encroach”. And they usually encroach on what the majority does not even dare to dream of: to become an absolute leader in their field of activity, to occupy the top rung of the corporate ladder, change the world or achieve cloudless happiness no matter what. A high "bar" and faith in one's own strength - this is a kind of "arrogance". So why not?

But here it is important not to overdo it. Insolence, of course, is the second happiness ... - for those who do not have the first. This is a less popular continuation of the famous phrase. On the one hand, almost everything that an impudent person does, he does for his own good. To achieve his goals, all means are good for him, and he will definitely go further than the “ordinary” person. But for the same reason, he cannot afford such a luxury as friends - that's why he is most often alone.

Pickup strategy

Insolence in the form of excessive perseverance is the quality that men actively use when meeting the fair sex. At first, such behavior is usually condemned, but then most ladies begin to find it charming - as close attention is always flattering, and shows a special interest in the interlocutor.

It doesn’t matter what the girls say - they can condemn the boyfriend “insolent” and whatever else, but at the same time they just want to make sure that he really is and is not included in the gray mass. That is why many men consider this protest against insolence only a "test for the weak" - as the saying goes, "if a woman says no, it means yes, but later."

According to pick-up artists, arrogance evokes the right, “necessary” emotions in a girl to seduce her, and also proves to her that she is in front of a self-confident, independent, self-sufficient man who is used to doing things her own way. And this is a sign of high status that attracts girls.

Defense mechanism

“Insolence is nothing but a false sign of greatness” (Seneca) Insolence can be the result of self-confidence, a high social position, a sense of superiority and a sense of one's security. But often behind arrogance lies ... self-doubt. In essence, these are two sides of the same coin, the same phenomenon. In order to somehow balance his self-doubt, in order to prove to himself that everything is different, a person (most often a teenager) begins to show impudence.

He does not yet know himself, and his sense of self-importance makes him look for confirmation in the outside world - in the way people, animals, virtual characters, physical objects, etc. react to him.
Sometimes, for this purpose, he can humiliate another person or kick the door of his own closet, which suddenly got in the way of an “important” person. Such self-affirmation is sometimes practiced by quite adult people, but this is already a pathology.

national trait

Hutzpa is a cocktail of super-arrogance, arrogance, self-esteem with a complete absence of timidity and shyness. In its original form, the concept exists only in the Hebrew language, where it is considered a positive character trait. However, there are exceptions to all rules: not all Jews have this character trait, but many oligarchs do. After all, it really comes down to education.

An example of a hutzpah: a man guilty of killing his parents asks the judge for leniency on the grounds that he is an orphan. Or, for example: a man trips his mother-in-law, she falls out of the window, and he shouts after her in a tragic voice: “Where are you going, mom ?!” A person with a hutzpa will easily invite a prom queen to a dance, unreasonably demand a promotion or an increase in wages - whatever.

Hutzpa is a special kind of pride that encourages action despite the danger of being unprepared, incapable or insufficiently experienced. Hutzpa means special courage, the desire to fight an unpredictable fate. The bearer of the hutzpa reacts calmly to strangers, authority figures, to situations where attention is drawn to him or when he is being evaluated. At the same time, he behaves as if he does not care about the probability of being wrong (and, in general, he is). In practice, this leads to the fact that for a long time a person receives a greater reward for his actions than if he evaded them, and does not attach importance to minor troubles (quote from the multimedia textbook "History of Russia").